Anger control test and anger management
Anger was one of the first emotions I met. My father had an important anger management issue. Growing up in a house where everything was thrown, broken, and violence could be in question at any moment, I had a lot of observation and research on this subject.
Along with that, I want to highlight how to recognize whether someone has an issue with anger today. Some suggestions may help if you have a problem similar to this as well. Let’s start by thinking about your behavior in the following scenarios.
When you went into a coffee shop to get yourself a cup of coffee, someone knocked into you and your coffee spilled all over the place, even if you were just able to take a sip. Do you scream at them in rage or do you grab a second cup of coffee?
You ordered from the internet something you want so much for a while. You waited a long time with excitement. However, when your order came, you recognized physical damage to it. Would you send an email and wait patiently, or would you call customer service, scream, or throw what you had?
Say you have a meeting with your friend under this scenario. You got ready, and there are left five minutes before you arrive but your friend calls you and said he/she can’t make it. Or are you going to call your friend to see what they need if you think they need help and support?
As you know, nowadays everyone is an expert. How do you respond when someone misrepresents your area of expertise? Should you react angrily to that person or do you say “okay” and go away?
Imagine that your roommate or partner asks you to pick up something on the way home. Yet you forgot because you had a busy day. Your friend or partner started to criticize you as soon as you got home. How will you answer him or her? Do you take steps to defend yourself, go to the store, or engage in a fight with him/her?
I can’t finish these suggestions without traffic examples as someone who lives in Istanbul. How do you respond when someone enters your lane of travel in violation of your right? Do you honk at that car, do you follow it, or do you just keep driving?
First of all, I have to say that being uncomfortable in all of the situations above is very normal. We can encounter life with these suggestions easily. We all might be anxious, the problem is how we react to them. If you are reacting to these events in a way that you regret later, you may have anger control.
There are also times when we all become enraged, lose control, and raise our voices; this is not the same as controlling our anger. But if you have an anger control issue, you can’t control yourself. Check yourself, especially if others close to you hesitate in front of you.
Anger is an aftershock, not an earthquake. Anger arises when we feel worthless, restless, and unfair.
To manage our anger, first, we have to face what is behind it. If you struggle with anger control, I suggest to you write when and why you feel angry. List a couple of them you remembered. When you think about situations in which you got angry you can see what’s behind it.
Some males treat their wives and children aggressively, yelling and perhaps using violence. Their lack of confidence is the cause of this. They attempt to dominate by displaying their power when they don’t feel respected. However, the reverse is true.
Anger arises as a result of emotions that we suppress. When we suppress our emotions, we explode like a bomb after a while. React to events on time. When you feel worthless, tell the person who made you feel that way. Even if the other party does not understand, you will be relieved. Some things pile up, and big outbursts happen after that so you can avoid them.
Our ability to maintain control is lost when we become angry. We become aware of our anger as it begins to build. As our bodies heat up, we start to sweat and also get restless. Step outside of that setting as soon as you start to feel this way. When we go toward rage, a pride-based conflict results. We don’t like going backward.
Don’t start a fight no one can win, you will lose
Being angry is a natural emotion. But that’s a problem if you’re behaving that you regret in the minor issues of everyday events. Find the primary emotion that lies beneath your anger.
Do not distance yourself from people who value you while you think you are angry with people who usurp your rights. Especially towards your children. Because no matter how old they get, you can leave an impression on them that they can never get over. I know by myself.
Thank you for taking the time and reading my post. I would appreciate hearing from you in the comments about how you respond to the above occurrences.
47 days ago, I started a 50-day challenge to solve my problems. One of my goals is in this process to share my journey on Medium every day. I would appreciate it if you would support me and accompany me on my journey. I hope to see you around.
