How can you start over? Advice from someone who started life again from burnout.
A while ago, I was in a trap where my dreams never came true. My master’s education didn’t keep going. My salary was so low. I couldn’t even meet my most basic needs. Everybody except me was building their career. I felt left behind.
I couldn’t find the power to improve my situation. I thought it wouldn’t work to start now. I was too far behind. Also, I didn’t believe in myself. I almost accepted that was my life now. My appearance, my career these were it.
All of this just was a few months ago. Now, I’m working on my thesis, and I took a step to change my career. I took a few courses, and I am studying. I am doing exercises every day. I eat clean. I lost the weight I wanted to. I am working to be the person I dream.
In addition, I want to help people who are feeling themselves in a trap like I did before. In this post, you will read how I change my situation and how you can change yours.
How did I find the power for change? What changed my mindset and mood?
I was always aware that I compared myself to others in an unhealthy way. I was feeling like in competition somehow. As a first step, I got rid of these thoughts.
I know it isn’t happening when you want to. But, when I have such negative thoughts, I immediately turn my attention to something different. Eventually, I recognized this is my journey. It is my life. Not others, I was chosen to live it.
I accepted my condition and others. So, I did not have the opportunities that the people I admire had. It is normal to have education and job differences between people and me.
Also, there are a lot of experienced people. People get the point I wanted to work hard. People get to where I want to be, not only with good opportunities but also with work. If I’m going to be one of them, working is my only option. I stopped comparing my stage 1 to the other 10.
Beginnings are difficult for everyone. It’s wrong to focus on where people are now by skipping over how they got to where they are.
Your age, your gender, none of are important. The life’s principle is about how much effort you put on. Maybe you’re thinking that you are working as much as you can and still nothing is happening. That’s the sign to you for keep going. Good things come from the break point.
Did you hear the 10.000-hour rule? Malcolm Gladwell claims that we have to work on something 10.000 hours to get success. In the book Outliers, Gladwell explains the success of Bill Gates, the Beatles, and more only gained with 10.000 hours of work.
When I read this book, I recognized all I need is time. Why should I upset myself if everything is possible with my effort? All I need, all you need is taking responsibility and just working on ourselves.
I was overwhelmed because of my status. My new beginning story is more about work and education. You might need start over for another reason. Maybe you have a family issue or break ups. But processes similar. In the end, all heartbreaks are the same, regardless of the reason.
First of all, find the main reason why you need to start over. What do you want to change and why? Research what you have to do to get there that you want. The root cause you find will be your motivation.
Don’t forget this is your journey.Don’t compare yourself with anyone else.
Don’t give up until you see results. It might take years to get where you want to be but try to enjoy being on a road.
Get rid of the things that make you think negative thoughts. It could be on social media. So delete it.
List the habits of the person you want to be in your new life and put them into practice. Keep a habit tracker.
Make your goals easier. If you want to exercise, put your equipment in a visible place. If you want to read a book, keep your book around. Don’t turn off your laptop if you want to work.
Make invisible what you don’t like in your old life. If you want to eat healthily, throw out the soap food. If you want to work efficiently, put your phone in another room while you work.
Thank you to everyone who took the time to read my post. 22 days ago I started a 50-day challenge. One of my goals is to share a post on Medium every day. I am very happy to see my followers increase on this journey. I would appreciate it if you would support me and accompany me on my journey. I will back to you. I hope to see you around.
