How Did I Deal With Feeling Void?
Have you ever felt something on your chest but were not sure what it is? Is this sadness? Could it be melancholy, boredom?
It could be a little bit of everything.
You might give it a different name, but I call it feeling void. The most important thing is that it is real and valid. Although this feeling is very intense, it is manageable. It is what I say because I did.
Finding the cause of this feeling and getting through it wasn’t simple for me. However, there is a possible and recommended solutions.
I fell into a void after graduation. I had decent marks and was a good student, but certain aspects of me weren’t convinced this was what I wanted to pursue.Additionally, the job market was awful, and I had little chance of getting a job.
I have no money. My parents began to criticize me for my job decisions. The most intriguing aspect was that I had no one to guide me when I chose my department.
I started to feel more restricted during this time as I became more aware of my childhood traumas. I had no motivation to do anything. I gave up on my future, as if. I started my master’s with this psychology. Academics, I reasoned, might be where I discovered some clarity.
Things then became worse. My job was awful.
It was like, everyone except for me was living their lives. I felt like I had fallen behind. I still didn’t want to take any action, only desired to eat, watch television, and sleep.
I try to summarize my thoughts and background, but your experience may differ. There may be a variety of causes for this experience, including hormonal shifts, a loss of employment, or the pandemic’s required physical isolation.
Any stage in life or circumstance that has an impact on you or your life can also lead to momentary feelings of emptiness.
Everybody occasionally experiences this emptiness in their souls. It’s common for people to sometimes lose their sense of self.
A lack of insight into yourself can lead to a prolonged feeling of emptiness. Some people call it “living without a purpose”. Living without a purpose means that you don’t have clarity about what kind of person you are or what you want to be.
Not having a specific goal or dream to reach can make you feel empty. It can come from many situations, such as cutting off contact with yourself, a consuming relationship, or strenuous work.
So, how do I overcome this feeling?
I accept the feeling void.
I felt guilty because doing nothing and not wanting to do anything. I remembered I was doing the best can in every given second. It is not uncommon to feel guilty.
I started writing my accomplishment. I was the best student to come out of a bad elementary school in a slum, and I did the best I could. It didn’t matter what other people did.
I still compare myself to others it lacks my motivation, but I avoid being in such a situation as limiting using social media.
Start by noticing your feelings and needs first. If you are experiencing an emptiness more like lack, accept it and be kind to yourself.
I have started talking about my painful experiences.
When we don’t openly talk or explore the feelings that have been with us for a long time, they show themselves in different ways.
Even if this sounds overwhelming and painful, talking and thinking about important past events that caused your grief can help you process them.
I wouldn’t talk to anyone about my traumatic childhood memories and failures. I used to try to be especially self-confident in such matters.
It was very tiring for me to cover things up all the time. And I don’t know why was I doing this? There were people around me who loved and cared about me and wouldn’t judge me for what made me who I am.
While I can’t tell anyone anything decided to write this on Medium. Your comments motivated me a lot and helped me believe in myself.
The support of people who never knew me gave me the strength to express myself. I told my partner about all my feelings after four years we met.
Reaching out to friends or family can make you feel better, especially if you can trust them about your feelings. It can be a good idea to stay in regular contact with people you love through social interaction, hobbies, and mutual interests.
The more I talked about it, the more I began to despise my negative thoughts about myself. I’m not the only one in the world who feels bad and doesn’t know what to do.
There are many things that I still can’t share with people that I can’t get over. But seeing that the issues I have explained have become clear to me is enough for me to recommend you tell them.
I take time for myself every day.
Leaving yourself and not listening to your wishes and needs can make you feel empty. Ignoring your own needs can lead to anxiety, guilt, and shame.
Depression and grief can sometimes cause you to neglect your daily self-care. I was there, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. However, being busy with self-care help me feel better.
This self-care can include simple things like eating healthy foods, getting enough sleep, and exercising.
Starting a regular diet and sports and establishing a skincare routine helped me feel myself again. Even being able to do sports that day is a goal for your life. Having a purpose is the worst enemy of emptiness.
After going through this healing process, I made a new resolution and started taking care of myself. Those who feel empty will understand how special it is to go back to a routine and have a goal.
I sincerely hope that my article was helpful to you if you are going through such a time. I hope you find what you’re looking for soon.
I appreciate you taking the time to read. I would love to hear from you! Please leave your thoughts in the comments below, and if you enjoyed don’t forget to clap. I hope to see you again soon.
