Love Bombing: A Type of Emotional Violence
Nowadays there is a strange love language all around. I hear a lot about how people have been exposed to ghosting, gaslighting, love bombing, and more.
When I first hear about the term love bombing, I thought what a nice thing that could be. However, after a little bit search, I noticed “love bombing” isn’t as nice as it sounds.
What is love bombing?
Love bombing is one type of manipulation.
The effects of love bombing are understood later.
Love bombing is a form of excessive communication that a narcissistic partner establishes at the beginning of the romantic relationship to gain power and control over her partner.
You might think everything will be perfect in the future and feel above the clouds. However, after a while, you suddenly experience the opposite of expected.
Love bombing is practiced by the manipulator at the beginning of the relationship, where the aim is to bind the other party to himself/herself and gain a sense of trust.
Love bombers display their affection in social settings in an effort to establish their dependability. All of this fades away when the relationship develops into something serious.
Even though it’s not your fault, if you see that your partner’s attitude is changing frequently, you should think about the possibility of a love bombing.
Your manipulator is punishing you by ceasing affection. In addition, you regret the initial attention you attracted.
The love bomber is basically telling you that he/she won’t initially show you interest if you don’t change to be the person he/she wants. In an effort to attract the same attention you did in the beginning, you are also providing.
What are the symptoms of a love bombing?
Every person sees such people and relationships around them, but it can be very difficult to notice when they are the victim. When exposed to this manipulation, people feel as if they are swept off their feet and think that they are experiencing love.
▪️If your partner started to say romantic words to you in a very short time at the beginning of the relationship.
For example, if he/she starts to make bold sentences at the beginning of the relationship, such as I can’t live without you. It is better to act cautiously.
▪️If he/she is sending messages day and night without stopping.
▪️️If he/she receives very frequent and expensive gifts at the beginning of the relationship.
▪️ You’re in the partner’s plans for the future too soon.
If it has been only a week since you met, and he/she is making plans to marry right away, it is useful to be careful.
▪️ If he/she interferes with the people around you, your friends.
▪️ If he/she does a lot of showing his/her love for you in the community, especially in your friend environment, if he constantly praises you in the community.
You may be experiencing love bombing.
The following problems can be seen in people after a love bombing;
▪️ Trust Problem.
▪️ Insecurity.
▪️ Skepticism.
▪️ Questions about yourself.
The individual who is manipulated in this process; may encounter problems such as losing their self-confidence, seeing themselves as incomplete and inadequate, or feeling worthless.
Individuals who have been manipulated and manipulated over a long period of time may feel self-doubt and insecurity even after gaining awareness.
You may begin to question whether you are a person worthy of love after such manipulation.
Bits of advice
▪️ State your limits in your romantic relationship. If things are developing too quickly at the beginning of the relationship, express this clearly to your partner and set your boundaries.
▪️ Don’t be afraid to say things you don’t like. For example; if it interferes with your friend circle and interferes with your relationship with others, expresses clearly that you do not like these behaviors.
▪️ The way to distinguish between romance and love bombardment is to review the relationship. Not all overly caring gestures, gifts, and words of love are a bombardment of love.
▪️ Evaluate the comments of your family and people around you about your partner.
Bad relationships in your past, your childhood dreams, or the pressure around you. All of these can make you defensive against someone who comes across and seems very romantic.
The truth is love bombers are definitely not stupid and will tell you what you want to hear. You will relax as you hear things like this:
Your friends are jealous of you. You are not in the right place at work. Your family doesn’t show you the respect you deserve. You’re too much for your ex-partners.
It is also a fact that sometimes those who do love bombing do not consciously try to manipulate the other party. He/she may be following patterns that worked in his childhood.
Although it is always done unconsciously, it is always harmful. The limits you set may drag the other person into a healthy relationship.
Frankly, I don’t believe in fast-growing things. Who can put someone at the center of their life in a week or two?
I have witnessed love bombing in more than a couple of relationships of my friends. That’s why I wanted to warn you, especially my sisters. I hope you found my article useful. I hope you find the value and love you deserve as soon as possible. If you have that love, congratulations!
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