Signs that you have an unhealed trauma
There may have been traumas in our past that we did not remember as children. Traumas have an impact on every aspect of our daily lives. We can be going through hard times or feeling depressed. We may be experiencing bad things or feeling sad. However, if you do not have any idea about your situation the reason may be the unhealed trauma from your past.
In addition, in this post, I will mention 5 signs that may have trauma signs.
Let’s look at the definition of trauma first. Trauma in psychology is an experience that the individual cannot respond to properly, cannot resolve even though she/he dwells on it, and therefore pushes it out of consciousness. Trauma can be caused by members of our family, friends, teachers, or even by strangers.
1- Generalize your experiences
Every trauma is connected somehow and we tend to generalize them. Even if you are unaware of the cause, some situations, locations, and particular music may be difficult for you to handle.
For example, if you had an event with someone with a certain physical trait, your brain is generalizing people with that trait. Moreover, you get away from these people specifically, and you experience anxiety when you encounter them.
2- If you don’t remember certain periods in your life
In some circumstances, our minds sweep things under the rug to keep us from going insane. This is like a fuse blowing when the current is too high. Therefore, if there are parts of your childhood that you cannot recall, trauma may have occurred at this time.
3-Flashbacks
If certain images of your memories come to your mind or have the same dreams all the time, it is also may be a sign of unhealed traumas.
4- If you feel guilty or ashamed
Even if you have a wonderful life that everyone envies, if you feel guilty or ashamed, it is also might be a trauma sign. The reason for that, in childhood, you feel guilty even if the person in front of you does something very heavy to you. Even if you realize later that you are not guilty, that you are just a child, and that you do not deserve what you have been through, this does not change.
5- Eating disorders
Trauma frequently contributes to eating problems, such as vomiting and binge eating. To numb our feelings, we could overeat.
Bulimics are more likely than non-bulimics to have a history of trauma. Although the first studies on trauma-focused on sexual abuse, it was understood in later studies that the trauma spectrum in eating disorders ranged from sexual abuse to physical or emotional abuse, neglect, and indifference.
6- Inability to control your emotions
Overreactions can also be a sign of trauma. For example, do you shiver when even someone you know touches you lightly? Do you worry when people touch you?
In addition to these, you may make a mess when you get angry, and then you may not understand why you are doing this. You might still be dealing with the effects of trauma if you have an excessive amount of attachment and blind faith in strangers.
7- Being your worst enemy
Even if you’ve had bad things in your past, life always offers you opportunities. But you’ll be just as successful if you’re self-sabotaging that can be a bad sign. For example, you came across a very good job opportunity, but you missed the interview because you fell asleep.
The items I listed above cannot be a single sign of trauma. You must be experiencing a few of them to indicate that you have a trauma.
The solution to every problem begins with awareness. If there are things you feel close to, don’t hesitate to get help.
I would like to share my research on the treatment of traumas in my next articles. Thank you for reading and taking the time. I wish the best for you. I hope you find the happiness you seek in life.
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